Thursday, March 14, 2024

Stories, I Have Stories!

 

Working in a Bridal Shop

 

Boy, do I have stories.  I have worked in three different shops, one department store bridal salon and owned my own shop for a few years.  You cannot predict what will happen in your day in a bridal shop.

One day, I had a bride and her mother in and they picked the most expensive gown we had.  It was a Galina gown in silk shantung with lace on it that was nearly $300 a yard.  It was gorgeous but not one I would ever consider.  It was over $3,300.00.  I would have gotten like 99.00 in commission on that sale alone.  They both loved it and decided while in the shop that they would both get second jobs so they could get it.  They came in at least once a week after that to try it on and look at headpieces and shoes and everything else.  They were very nice and so excited to try it on each time. 

It was in their ivory color which was close to this color (without all those lines):



It was not this gown but the sleeves and bodice were very similar.  Then they suddenly quit coming in.  Several weeks later the mom came in alone to look at veils and said that they had found the exact same gown at Penney’s Outlet store for 99.00.  It was exactly the same from the beading on the short sleeves to the very expensive lace all along the hem and train. Big lie!  First, Penney’s never sold Galina gowns nor gowns in silk shantung. Second you did not get the exact same gown, you pay for quality and they were completely different in quality and third she pulled out a picture of the gown they bought and it was this one:

 

Cheap satin, long sleeves, no lace on the hem, etc.  So, we figured I had spent a good 4.5 hours with this bride over the weeks and then this happened.  I didn’t care that she bought another dress somewhere else, but don’t try to get it over on me that it is the exact same dress.  They look nothing alike at all!

In one of the shops we had a hat rack with hats and veils on it and several bars with veils hanging there – most $150 to $300.  One day a lady and a little girl came in.  Little girl was about 6.  Lady says her sister is getting married so she wants to look at our veil selection.  I take her to the veil area and the girl is trying on all kinds of veils and mom is trying on veils.  Girl starts hanging from the brass hat rack and it about falls over on her.  Mom just keeps on trying on veils for her sister who is not there.  I keep taking the veils away from the little girl and hanging them up and asking her to please be careful, she could get hurt or easily rip the veils.  Mom keeps telling her how cute she is as she is hanging upside down between the veils.  Manager comes out and asks the lady to please refrain from letting the girl hang on the bars and hat rack and to not allow the little girl to try on any veil.  These are expensive and we do not want them ripped.  Lady ignores her and continues ignoring monster brat who is running with a veil now up and down the hall going into the dressing rooms, where brides are.  I stood at one end and the manager at the other end to stop her and she just kept on, now running in the showroom part of the store and hiding under the wedding gowns.  Mom keeps asking me questions about the veils and pricing, so I am stuck standing there with mom and our manager and our tuxedo manager are dealing with monster child.  Finally, the mom gets upset because I could not offer any type of discount to her to offer to her sister.  She hollers for monster brat and tells her she behaved so well, she was so proud of her and they were going to get her a happy meal for behaving so well!  As we cleaned up the mess!

 

I once had a bride come in and had it narrowed down to two gowns, one was a full skirt and one was a sheath (tighter) skirt.  She asked me which one would be easier to take off… She and her future hubby were both virgins and wanted to do it in the back seat of the limo between the church and the reception.  I think she went with the full skirt.

The one she went with was very similar to the one on the left and the one on the right was similar to the other one she looked at:


 

Then there was my very mature bride… She wanted an ivory suit and we did not have anything like that really.  I showed her what we had.  She, her daughter and future step daughter were there trying on dresses.  Bride was 83!  All four of us were in the dressing room the entire time.  Lady said all we had was too young for her, she liked one dress and it was too expensive, and they left.  About an hour later the owner called me in her office.  One of the ladies had called back and said that I was mean and rude and kept calling her an old lady.  The stuff her daughter said about me made me cry I was so upset.  Of course, the customer is always right so the owner offered her a discount and a guarantee that I would not be their consultant.  The owner did not tell them what the discount was but when they came back later that day, they were very upset that it was only 20%.  They wanted 80% off because of all the grief and aggravation I caused!  Thankfully, the other consultant had told the owner that she heard most of what was said in the dressing room and I never said anything they said I did.  And they ended up not buying anything from us of course!  Oh well…They just wanted something for nothing we decided.  I believe, now that I think back on it that the owner actually asked them to leave as they were causing a scene and we obviously did not have anything in their price range. 

The one shop hours were Mon, Tues and Thursday 10-7, Wed, Friday and Saturday were 10-5.

It was the day before Thanksgiving and I was so excited, my brother was coming home from Denver that day.  It was really quiet in the shop that afternoon and the phone rang and it was a bride who had a dress on order.  She wanted to know our hours.  I told her we closed at 5 and would be closed the next day for the holiday.  She started screaming that I was being unfair to her.  I waited till she was done screaming and asked what she meant.  She said are you aware tomorrow is a holiday?  I said yes, I am.  She said are you aware that some of us have family coming to town and they want to see my dress?  I said I’m sorry but we are closed for the holiday.  She asked why.  I said because we want to spend Thanksgiving with our families too.  She began screaming again that I was a selfish b word and I better stay there tonight to let her in when her family gets there.  I was on the phone clear across the room from where the managers office was but she heard the bride screaming and got on the phone and asked her to calm down and tell her what was going on and the woman starts screaming that I am a selfish b word because I wouldn’t come in on Thanksgiving to let her family see her dress.  The manager hung up on her.  She called back two or three more times screaming and each time the manager hung up.  She finally called and calmly asked why they were hanging up on her and our wonderful manager said we won’t listen to anyone scream at us.  We will be here till 5 tonight and 10-5 Friday if you would like to come in then.  Well, on Saturday they came in, and I got her dress out.  She showed it to like 15 people.  Tried it on, wasn’t sure it was perfect, complained that we had spilled something on it etc.  We explained that she had already purchased the gown and special ordered it in so she could not get her money back, and there was nothing spilled on her dress. Her grandmother agreed with us and they were happy for a minute.  Now Saturdays were our busiest days and that particular Saturday there were tons of people in there.  Here comes that bride, asking me what time a movie was showing at the theater across the parking lot.  I did not know.  Here comes mom, will you call and ask? There are people in line at the desk and they are butting in asking me to call the theater!  About that time our manager came out and told them they could go to our front door and see what time the movie showings were on the marquee.  This was my first job other than day care so I was very timid and shy.  And afraid I would say something the wrong way, so I was always happy when she came out of her office to help me out!

 

I watched Young and Restless back in the day (still do sometimes) and Danny and Cricket got married and she wore a gown very similar to one we had in the shop.

                                  Danny and Cricket                                  gown we had



I had a bride come in and was looking through the dresses and I was putting them in her dressing room when she came across this Zurc gown.  She just had me put it in the room and when she was ready she wanted to start with that gown.  She got it on and began to cry.  She went out to the hallway and called her mom at work and asked if she could take her lunch break and come see it right now.  The girl didn’t say anything to me about the dress but waited on her mom and when she got there the girl began crying again and told her mom, this is Crickets dress.  I get to wear Cricket’s wedding gown.  It was around $800 I think and she ordered it that day without trying on any of the other gowns she had pulled.  I always thought that was sweet.

 

We had a girl come in and wanted us to dye a pair of satin shoes she owned to match her red prom dress.  The shoes were a deep green so I had to bleach them first and I told her that red was the hardest color to match.  Especially, once I had to bleach them first.  We only charged $5 to dye them so I told her again, I would not promise they would be the exact color.  I got them as close to the swatch of her dress color as I could and she came in and said I needed to redo them.  Now, mind you, every time we bleached shoes they got harder to wear.  The bleach hardened in some way and they were not comfortable. We re-dyed them and had her come in three more times.  Finally, I told her I would dye them black and not charge her since we could not get the correct red color.  She said that was fine.  The Monday after her prom she and a big group of her friends came in and demanded her money back for the price of the shoes (that she bought somewhere else) because I ruined her senior prom!  They wouldn’t leave and I wasn’t giving her money.  I had spent hours working on her shoes and didn’t charge her for them.  My mom called the police to get them out.  They left just before the first police officer arrived.  Turns out they had been going around to a lot of stores and doing the same thing demanding money back for stuff they didn’t buy there and since there were normally 10-15 girls the stores were giving in to avoid more trouble.  The girl and about 3 of her friends were arrested in our parking lot as a couple of them had stolen dresses from us as they were arguing with me.  And had shoplifted at other stores too.

 

While we owned our own shop, we loved doing the window displays and we had put a ring box with a cheap $2.00 “diamond” ring and plain wedding band in the hand of the male mannequin.  We had two guys come in one morning and one guy kept asking my mom questions about renting bridesmaid dresses while the other one really admired the tuxedo in the window.  They were in there about a half hour and after they left I went up to the window to rearrange some stuff he had looked at and didn’t put back in the correct place when I realized the ring box was in the mannequins’ hand but the rings were gone.  Wonder what his fiancĂ© thought about that big diamond ring she was given that I had bought on sale at Walmart?

 

While we owned the shop, my brother got very sick in Denver and my mom and dad flew out there Wednesday morning.  He passed away on Thursday morning and of course, as was his very dramatic  fashion, he had to die on the busiest tuxedo week of the year.  June 22-25.  I think we had 7 weddings and about 115 tuxedos going out for that weekend.  I had called all the brides on Wednesday and told them I was flying to Denver on Friday.  They were all very nice and all came in Wednesday and Thursday to pick up the tuxes.  We often had to do alterations on them so I was worried.  When I closed up at the end of the day no one had to have any alterations done.  I had a teenager that worked with me part time and all the brides had her number at home if they had an emergency come up.  She only got one call the whole weekend and had to run up on Saturday morning to find a bow tie as one gotten lost in the car or somewhere.  I was so proud of her and all our brides and grooms for being so nice and flexible.  We had the funeral on Saturday and came home on Sunday so we were back at it Monday morning and all day the groomsmen and families returned tuxes to us and gave me hugs and were all so sweet.  I was so impressed!

I have many more stories but for now, I will leave it at this.  Happy pinning!

 

 

 

 

 

Tuesday, March 12, 2024

 Falling in Love With a Wedding Gown!

So, every magazine I saw had gorgeous dresses in it.  I would always find at least three or four or more that I loved.  Some were these:

I loved the ruffles and the sleeves in this one!

More ruffles!  But I could see how this one would make short fat me look a little taller and maybe even slenderer...

The sleeves on this one, I liked sparkle but could have lived without it for this gown!

Look at the glitter on that one!  

More glitter and lace!

Then one day, early January 1987, my friend Michelle and I went to Dillon's to grocery shop and I bought the Feb/March issue of Bride's magazine and as I sat there in my dorm room in the little blue chair I saw it.  Oh my goodness. the gown of my dreams!  It was the most absolutely beautiful gown I had ever seen and still to this day, I have never found one I love more!


Those bishop sleeves over the bows!  That gorgeous Queen Anne neckline! All the pearls and sequins on the bodice and those sleeves, have I mentioned how I loved the sleeves?  But wait, look at that train!  It looks huge, those bows going down somehow hook up to bustle the train? Oh I love it!  I called the 800 number on the first page of the ad and the only place that had the gown in stock in the state of Kansas was in Wichita.  I sent them a little note asking about it and they sent me a note back that they had it and it was $900!  Even if I had a fiance at that point my mom would not have let me buy a $900 wedding dress.  She always said we would buy me a gown at the JC Penney's Outlet store. (I had found my prom gown there for $4.99 so I knew I could get a good deal at the Outlet store.) I saved the picture and knew it could never be mine.  I have since seen many gorgeous gowns but none like that one dream gown.

Three years later I am working in a large bridal shop as a bridal consultant and selling gorgeous gowns every day.  One day we had a bride that needed an in stock gown for a very fast wedding (her fiance was in the service and going to the Gulf War in a few weeks) we had a few gowns way up high in the back room.  They were discontinued gowns that eventually were being sent to somewhere overseas where they redid them and sold them.  I don't know where or how or why.  But our manager told me to go pull a couple gowns from there and she would sell any gown there for $100.  One of the other consultants and I went back and were pulling gowns down for this bride when I saw a dress with chiffon sleeves.  Sharon said "that one is pretty, should I pull it down or do you think it's too formal?" I asked her to pull it down and set it aside so I could look at it later, as it was too formal for the bride.  We did and the bride found a beautiful gown for $100 and left the store beaming.  Sharon said she liked the sleeves on the dress I had her pull and I said I did too, lets go look at it.  As I got closer to it both of us gasped.  There were little bows under the chiffon.  I never saw anyone pull a train of a gown off the hanger (You know the ribbon from underneath the train was hanging on the hanger) as fast as Sharon did and as she pulled the train out onto the floor I began to cry.  there were bows all down the train!  Sharon asked if I had the picture of my dress and for some reason I had it in my tote bag.  I went and got it and low and behold we were looking at my dream gown in person!!!
The manager came out to see what we were squealing about and we told her we had just found my dress from my picture.  She looked at it and said I'll sell it to you
 for $450.  I was thrilled!  Then Sharon said we pulled it down from the $100 gown area.  the manager said OK, you can have it for $100.  It was nowhere near my size but one of the alterations ladies came out and said it could easily be made bigger to fit me.  So I bought it for $106.50 with tax!  That is when I saw the original price tag.  $939.00!!! Then we measured the train.  It is a royal train.  12 and a half feet from the waist to the end of the train!  And there are little hooks and eyes on each bow so it can be bustled for the reception.   A few years later I added pearls and sequins down all the lace on the train.   It is still in my closet and I have yet to wear it.  Not giving up on it yet, even though at my age, it would be too much!

My $4.99 prom dress we took it years later to our church rummage sale and a young lady I knew found it  and wore it to her prom!  Exactly 30 years to the day I wore it.  She said she got lots of complements on her "vintage gown!"
Till next time keep pinning those gorgeous 80's dresses!











Monday, March 11, 2024

Venturing Into Another Bridal Shop Or Two...

 Once I went away to college I found other friends that enjoyed looking at bridal magazines and going to bridal shops to try on dresses.  I spent a weekend with my roommate at her house and we decided to go out to a couple shops and play.  She loved the western looking wedding gowns so we were looking for one of those.  We found it in a bridal shop and unfortunately, they did not have her size but they had one in mine so I tried it on.  This was a large bridal shop, and they had me step up on a stage with the mirrors all around and they spread the train out just as a little boy and his dad (?) walked by.  The man told him to watch out so he didn't step on the train.  The little boy, he was about 6, stopped and looked up at me and his eyes got really big and he said wow!  You're pretty!  My heart melted!  The gown looked alot like this one.


That reminds me of a recent time that does not include a wedding gown at all.  A friend passed away unexpectedly and her husband gave me a gorgeous cape she wore a lot.  It is a dark gray color and I had it on in a convenience store one evening.  This little girl came over by me and said  but you're so beautiful!  Then she went back over to her mom and was talking to her.  The only thing I could think of was her mom had told her I must be an old witch in that cape.  Oh well!
Back to my roommates house.  Later that day we went to another bridal salon where we both tried on a couple dresses.  The only one I remember is this one and then I fell in love with ruffles.



It was around this time I saw a bridal bouquet with tiny lights in it and one made completely out of crystal beads.  Similar to these.  So now I wanted to learn how to do bouquets and I taught myself, this was before the internet... And I have done bouquets for about 12 weddings.  I loved it and still do.  I did some last may for my niece.  They were in navy and gold.  They came out OK I think.

Next time, I will talk about my dream dresses!








 And Then I found Diamonds!!!!

So I was completely obsessed with weddings already in high school and then I found diamond rings.  I babysat all the time and one family had season passes to our local amusement park so I got one too and would go along with the family several times a week all spring, summer and fall.  I noticed I was always looking at rings.  We would stand in line in those mazes waiting to get on rides and women would have their hand on the railing and I noticed every single diamond ring I ever saw I think.  I was odd, what can I say?  As I got into my senior year of high school, I took a class where we planned our wedding and learned all about babies and interior decorating.  When it came to wedding planning my friend Becky and I got to do our report on wedding rings.  We were so excited.  We spent an evening at the mall going to the jewelry stores and looking around, most of the sales people blew us off as we were not going to make them a commission, so the last store we went to, Becky told him I was getting married and hadn't gotten an engagement ring yet so we were looking to see what we could see.  He let us both try on just about every ring in the store and the one I remember most was worth over $27,000.00!  He said it was a perfect flawless 4 carat (I think) diamond.  He let me look at it through the special magnifier, but that meant nothing to me really, I could see black dots on other diamonds it seems and not that one.  But otherwise, I had no idea what I was looking for.  But it was fun and that ring was gorgeous.  It was just a solitaire but it was a big diamond and it sure sparkled in the lights!  It looked a lot like this:


In 1983 the popular rings looked alot like these:






Lots of swirls in gold and diamonds it seems
Several people I knew had just a plain solitaire with a plain band.  I wanted lots of diamonds!
I remember seeing trios like these



My very favorite cut was the Marquise cut.  It still is today, though you hardly ever see it.  Nowdays everyone wants Princess cut stones it seems.
Marquise
My absolute very favorites had marquise and baguettes, I remember that night with Becky is the first time I learned about baguettes, that salesman gave us a quick education in diamonds which helped us get an A on our report!

Princess cut from today
And today in 2024 I am still obsessed over 1980's wedding gowns and gorgeous diamond rings!